you know what to do

uhm, chill, it's not a part of my English assignment :) . It's just a side effect of my illness which forces me to just take some rest the whole week. Caught a fever last Sunday, didn't go to college on Monday, getting worse and finally decided to get a blood test on Tuesday and the result showed that I'm infected by s. paratyphi. And the days of just-lying-down-on-my-bed are boooring -.- .


Okay back to the topic. I was sitting on the family room when this thought suddenly came to my mind. Have you ever heard one said this to you “what you said/did to someone remains forever in his/her heart” ? or this “when you tell a girl she’s beautiful, she will forget it in a couple days. When you tell her she’s ugly, she will remember it forever” ?

Honestly, I think the point is not what people say about you, because no matter how good you are, some people are going to say bad things about you. It’s inevitable. You can’t control what they’re going to say about you. You will waste your life thinking about it every time you’re going to do something.

What’s under your “control area” is how your heart react to that. In other word, actually, what’s under your “control area” is yourself.
Be more flexible. It’s not easy. You know a process to something good is never easy. By every occurrence happened to you, you are shaped. You learn to decide what’s good to be kept in your heart and what’s better be discarded.

Only then you can finally realize that your life doesn’t depend on what others say about you. Only then you can do whatever you want, with every responsibility, wisdom and conscience you have, without having to think much about what will people say.

You have choices. You always have choices. And it’s obviously clear that your feelings depend on what you choose, what you want your heart to feel.

So, what are you afraid to? Go, do something you always want to do. Chase everything you want to get. When facing people’s reactions, you know what to do ;)